Another one of her orphanage habits is eating. Eating all day brings her comfort because she did not get as much as she wanted in the orphanage. At one point I was giving her M & M's and raisins. I had seen her putting them in a pile and not eating them so eventually I pointed to the pile and signed eat. I look over again and they were all gone! I looked everywhere for them, then I saw her eating them out of her pocket. You see kids who come from hard places will hide food, so they know for sure they will never go hungry. After talking to many other moms who have adopted from Shanghai, it is very common for children to come home wanting to eat everything they can get their hands on. Because they just never had enough. One mom even told me that girls especially are hungry because they feed the boys first and usually all that is left is broth.
Also when Abbi grieves, she wants her shoes on. It gives her a sense of comfort some how. It is night 3 with her and she cried less tonight but she still went to bed with shoes on, at least they are the red sparkly one we gave her!. MY heart breaks every time. No child should suffer so much loss and change! We can shake our heads and point our fingers at a country whose government has created this mess, but America is no better, only our problem is selfishness, greed and complacency. So many would rather be ignorant of the need in our own country and shake their finger at those who adopt internationally. Mean while, no one moves to stop it. Our world is just so corrupt,,,and children suffer. My heart breaks as I look at Abbi and see a girl so sweet, so happy and so hurt! It could take years to un- do all the trauma, but we will be with her every step of the way!
We took Abbi for her first swim tonight. It did not last long. She seemed to be okay with it but it took away all her comforts. We got out and she wanted her shoes. But she wanted to get back in. It did not last long as she wanted her shoes back on and needed her snack cup in her hand. Once all of those were in place the smile came back.
|Love wearing a swim cap...so no one EVER!|
When we first walked in I could tell Abbi was a little confused and nervous, but she got down and ran to a few nannies but always came back to me with open arms! Yes my heart melted into a million pieces! I saw her bed, empty now and being used to fold clothes (SO HAPPY THAT BED IS EMPTY!!!!) The first face I saw when we walked in was this sweet girl who I have been aching to have a family! She is in so many of Nina's pictures! (And yet neither acted like they knew each other, really non of the kids acknowledged each other.)